Maven's Guide to Living Guilt and Child-free.

The Need to Breed


There are over seven billion people in the world. That’s 7,000,000,000. That’s thousands of millions of human beings.
And yet, for some reason, there are a lot of people lamenting the U.S.’s (and other wealthy countries’) declining birthrates.

I understand that the will to reproduce is strong. If it wasn’t, no woman in her right mind would willingly follow through with pregnancy and childbirth. But with seven billion (again, that’s 7,000,000,000,) people in the world, and with that number morbidly rising, you’d think we’d say, “you know, 7 billion is enough for right now. Let’s take a break from reproduction and feed the starving, or something.”
But we’re not doing that. Instead, people are freaking out as if they think humans are going extinct.
And the underlying rhetoric through this Call to Breed is this: If you don’t have biological children, then you must be living a selfish, hedonistic lifestyle.

And this underlying message is horrendously offensive.
I contend that it is, at the very least, more selfish to have biological children while so many others are homeless, orphaned, or abused. If the urge to parent in you is so powerful, the least you can do is adopt a child who already exists.

With 7 billion people in the world, and nowhere near enough resources to care for them all, it is selfish to add to this problem. By choosing to procreate, you are taking food, resources, and jobs away from everyone else, effectively putting your drive to breed above the needs of literally every other human being on the planet.
And somehow, I am the one who is labeled selfish.


Author: mavenzelle

I'm an atheist, feminist, child-free young adult.

7 thoughts on “The Need to Breed

  1. It *must* be a powerful force to ignore the data. Of course, adoption would be a perfect choice if it had not been turned into a for-profit venture in many contexts. I like the village idea, but some parents while enjoying the help, do not want to share the benefits of children.

    • The village idea? I’m not sure what you mean.

      • It’s a commonplace that “it takes a village to raise a child,” suggesting that the larger community is and should be involved with the children in their lives. Extended family, friends, and neighbors all can play a role, but in the US the limited focus on nuclear families and an individualist focus creates tension between wanting that village and being afraid of it.

      • Oh, I get that. I’m not sure where I stand on that yet, but I think I feel a post coming on!

  2. Even worse, it’s not even an equal game. The chlidren of countries in the wealther countries use far more resources in their life and upbringing than the children in countries with lower average standards of living.

    Great post, by the way.

  3. Well, I don’t agree that the world is anywhere near being overpopulated since there is so much more land available. As for resources not being available, that is simply untrue as well. There are plenty of resources that are wasted daily and that is most sickening.
    However, I agree with you that not wanting to bare children yourself is NOT selfish. I would say it’s most responsible! It IS selfish to have sex, get pregnant and birth a child you didn’t intend on having without proper preparation. It’s selfish because your own needs came before the welfare of the child and then those people suck on the government tit for handouts. Then it’s everybody’s fault but your own.
    People need to simply take responsibility for themselves and worry about themselves I think. Making a baby is supposed to be a bond between two loving people who WANT to bring another life into the world. Wanting a child and getting one through adoption does not always satisfy this desire. I see nothing wrong with people making choices as long as they plan for the choices they make.

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